If anyone has seen this Brene Brown ted talk or has read her book, “Daring Greatly” and the way she talks about leadership and vulnerability. This one just really caught my ears and I find it very interesting. She talks about how being vulnerable in the work place has helped companies move past obstacles that they never thought they could get past. I’m curious what everyone’s thoughts are on great leadership skills and team work.
The first part Brene explains is understanding vulnerability. Examples of what people would describe as vulnerability.
-sharing an unpopular opinion.
-standing up for myself.
-asking for help.
-saying no.
-starting my own business.
-getting promoted and not knowing if I’m going to succeed.
-trying something new.
-admitting that I’m afraid.
-stepping up to the plate again after a series of strike outs.
-telling your CEO that we won’t make pay role next month.
-laying off employees.
-presenting your product to the world and getting no response.
-being accountable.
-asking for forgiveness.
-having faith.
In her book, Brene discusses the topic of shame in the workplace head on and how unhappy people really are at work because of the vicious cycles of humiliation and shaming.
“I don’t believe shame is helpful or productive. In fact, I think shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive, hurtful behavior than the solution or cure. I think the fear of disconnection can make us dangerous.”
In the workplace, shame is destructive because it spreads fear that prevents employees from engaging with others freely. It limits interactions and shared ideas. Employees who are at risk of shaming tend to withdraw themselves. They are no longer open to be vulnerable. (which is a crucial characteristic in the creative work environment).
The source of scarcity: Brene says ask yourself these questions;
- Shame: Is fear of ridicule and belittling used to manage people and or keep people in line? Is self-worth tied to achievement, productivity or compliance? Are blaming and finger pointing norms? Are put downs and name calling ramped? What about favoritism? Is perfectionism an issue?
- Comparison: Healthy competition can be beneficial, but is there constant overt or convert comparing and ranking? Has creativity been suffocated? Are people held to one narrow standard whether than acknowledged for their unique gifts and contributions? Is there an ideal way of being or one form of talent that is used as a measurement of everyone else’s worth.
- Engagement: Are people afraid to take risks or try new things? Is it easier to stay quiet then to share stories, experiences and ideas. Does it feel as if know no one is really paying attention or listening? Is everyone struggling to be seen and heard?
What are peoples opinions of using this mentality in the work place? Honestly, seems to me that something like this could be used for any social setting/team/your spouse/family and your workplace.
After reading her book, I took away the title, you have to “dare greatly” in everything you do. Don’t be afraid, be brave and speak up.